Sixth Stone – Congruence

Hœnir

One of the creators of humankind, and Odin’s brother, Hœnir was a powerful god amongst the Aesir. Many times, he served as a traveling companion to Odin or Loki. Hœnir was one of the gods that were traded between the Aesir and Vanir in order to enact a treaty. The Vanir believed that Hœnir was extremely wise and powerful, a good and decent trade by the Aesir. However, he was indecisive and often mumbling through his words. The wise Mimir was relied on to make all decisions for him, but without him, Hœnir could only be heard grunting noncommittal answers.

Congruence

Ever heard the line, “Just be yourself.” when asking for advice about how to ask a girl out? Well guess what I’m about to tell you. Yeah, that’s right. That’s the biggest piece of bullshit anyone can ever tell you when it comes to meeting someone. A direct result of dozens of Disney movies, clueless advisers, and women, this single piece of advice can kill a guy after he takes it to heart and still gets rejected. However, I’m not here to talk about that, because if you’re following this Path, then you no longer look like a weak-thinking person who girls wouldn’t be attracted to. However, what do you portray? Have you ever seen someone you labeled as a “poser”, or have you ever been called that yourself? Why would anyone accuse someone who looks and plays the part of whatever they’re portraying of “posing”? Well the biggest reason is congruence. The fuck does that mean? Better watch that tone, little one. Congruence is the symmetry of your inner personality and the outer portrayal of it. Internal and external consistency. In other words, if you look like the confident, “fuck-all” guy, then your personality (speech, thought process, etc) will show that. However, you can throw on the look of a superstar any day, and still think of yourself as a pathetic fuck. This is a problem kids, because then you get judged as someone who is not being true to themselves, “fake” or a “poser”. To put it into perspective, imagine you’re in this prehistoric caveman tribe. Two men suddenly come out of a house, dragging between them what appears to be one of your own. However, after close inspection, they show everyone the lack of tribal tattoos that every male in your village has. This man has thrown on a few of your village’s apparels and tried to blend in. What would you think of him? He could be a spy, he’s freeloading, or he could have been banished from his tribe for something bad since he was too ashamed to even ask for the acceptance of this new populace, etc..etc. Posing gives a sense of underhandedness, untruthfulness, untrustworthy, etc. Even worse, someone who gains the title of “poser” is basically showing his/her blazing social insecurity. They’re looking for acceptance from anyone who can give it, and don’t have the means to be themselves around others.

Attraction

Few men know that women have an incredible sense for these types of things. I recently saw an episode of “True Life by MTV” where a gay guy was living a double-life, trying to appear straight so his guy friends wouldn’t reject him. However, a girl he was close to knew from the very first time she met him that he was a blazing homosexual. The subconscious of a woman’s mind is extremely powerful. Unconsciously, women develop mental/physical patterns designed to draw a man’s inner personality out. These range from simple questions to damn near feeling you up. Especially with exceptionally beautiful women, they have the ability to see who you really are, sometimes being the complete opposite of what you want to portray. They’ll use body language, say certain things, or even behave in certain ways to make sure that you’re the person you show you are. The biggest reason is because of safety. They want to make sure they can let their guard down and feel safe around you. Second is their past bad relationships. Most have talked to plenty of guys who may look good, are funny, etc, but have absolutely no self-confidence. No woman wants a guy like that, unless she’s pathetic. So she’ll hit you with some antagonistic “congruence test” and gauge your reaction. Depending on how calm and non-receptive you are to the attack, her mind then either becomes more attracted to you, or if you react negatively, she completely falls out. It’s hard to explain this to a lot of guys, because many don’t recognize when and why this is happening. Ever been asked by a girl to hold her purse, or something else for her? Or she suddenly pops a stupid question like, “Are you gay?” Now you obviously aren’t gay since you’re there talking to her, but she wants to know how solid you are with yourself. If you acted negatively like, “Why the hell would you think I was gay?” You can almost see the potential attraction drain from her face. The interaction soon becomes stale, and she probably leaves. It totally isn’t her fault, and can even make her sad/upset if some guy she does want to be attracted to proves to be some pansy. However, If you happen to pass the test, it serves to assuage the doubts in her mind about her being safe with, and cared for, by you. It shows that you are who you say you are, and she can let her attraction for you soar freely. The easiest way to pass a congruence test is to be totally confident and non-supplicating to her insane desires.

The Real

Are you truly in sync with yourself? You can walk and talk as confidently as you like, or wear the emo clothes, or listen to country music, but unless it is truly who you are, you will never be able to truly become a sincere person. It will keep you from integrating yourself into the social world, because you’ll be rejected over and over again as you struggle for peer acceptance. Your desperation for ego fellatio will turn others off, because who truly wants to spend their day giving that to anyone? Accept who you are, and be that person. People will like you, even if you do have to make some changes. However, those changes shouldn’t be ones that try to hide you in some social clique. For women, just don’t supplicate when you’re meeting them. Buy them a drink? For what? You have no need to rent their time with alcohol, or otherwise. Don’t be rude, but don’t try to win them over by following their every single request of obedience.

The Sixth Stone – Congruence

True congruence means knowing yourself: who you are, what you want, what you need, what you require from others, and what you require from yourself. You’re solid in yourself and work to promote you, socially or otherwise. You have the confidence in yourself to know that you don’t need to social acceptance of others to make it through life. People will love you for you, and you don’t have to try to “fit in” to get by. even with women, they truly do want you to be yourself. However, they want you to be the best version of you. How do you deal with a girl who asks if you’re gay? You ignore it. Why does something that trivial and immature deserve your attention? The people you may have been with romantically, in the past, are your business. You can let her know all the dirty secrets after you two are walking down the hallways, hand in hand. 😉

Plains of Asgard

• Like I’ve said before, you need to figure out who you are. This will help.
• Be confident in yourself and who you are.
• Learn to not supplicate everyone’s desires. There’s a difference between being nice and polite, and just being a house slave.
• DO NOT try to “fit in” with anyone. Make you, and be that person.

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